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March 14, 2007

Some Jessie Stuff

Filed under: My People — Nick @ 9:59 pm

A couple Friday’s ago Jessie made a new friend. I’m off on Friday mornings these days and was feeding her some solid food when I noticed that she wasn’t looking out the window but at our cockatiel, Boxer.

I got Boxer out and set her on my shoulder. Jessie liked to look at her and we whistled a couple of songs to entertain the girl. Boxer knows the Simpson’s Theme and Norwegian Wood, being partial to the latter. It only took a few minutes, but Boxer leapt off my shoulder and onto the high chair tray. Jessie took it all in stride and when Boxer walked up to her, chirped a greeting, and nodded her head down, Baby Girl reached a hand out and started petting her! I couldn’t believe it. Completely beside myself at Boxer’s interest in her and Jessie’s gentle touch and patience. The bird pecked at her fingers for a second and Jessie didn’t flinch. This went on for a good minute or so when I realized that I should have record of this. I was able to get one, two pictures and a short video clip.

Also, Jessie has quickly gotten bored with being fed and is on to trying to feed herself. In a matter of days she figured out how to work the Cheerios into her mouth sans parental assistance.

Last week Trish changed her from banana mush to actual pieces of banana. Jessie likes to grab at the forks and spoons that are delivering her food (to Porter’s newfound amusement) and as a goof Trish gave her the little plastic fork she was using with the nanners. Well, Jessie plopped that tasty piece of potassium right into her mouth. She did it a couple more times and then repeated it for the camera the next day. Trish noted that adults don’t have that kind of aim.

But it shows that our little girl has an independent streak already.

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March 11, 2007

Porter’s Potty Training

Filed under: My People — Nick @ 9:54 pm

Porter’s potty training is going forward. It’s fair to say he’s 3/4 or better of the way there. He has little leaks with fair regularity, but we’ve started telling him to feel for a “tiny push” to catch them. We got him to think about going to the potty by telling him to feel that “little push” under your tummy and that worked pretty well. Hopefully this will too. he get’s to go to Chuck E Cheese after 3 completely dry days and that’s always been a good motivator. Trish had the brilliant idea to give him a sticker everytime he potties and has dry underwear.

Doh! That reminds me of something. A week and half ago, little dude soiled, not wet, but bloody well soiled himself 4 dang times. During the day Trish had to change his underwear and pants twice which infuriated her to say the least. She worked that night and I got the second shift. My experience started because he kept waking up after bedtime. No big deal, I figured he was having a nightmare. After the third time I got him up for a bit and offered him to watch me play Super Mario Brothers for a few minutes (I’m still trying to beat that game) so he could be up and about for a few minutes. On the rare occasion I have a bad dream I like to get up, turn on some lights and wake up a bit. If I don’t I go right back into the bad dream. So, he sat on my lap and when I put my arm around him he stood up and told me not to hug him. Denying a hug while he’s upset?

That’s when I realized he wet himself.

I asked him if he did, he said yes, and started to cry. We marched to the bathroom, he got in the bath while I got him clean pj’s and found a diaper. I was done screwing with underwear. And then, when I was drying him off, he peed not only on the bath rug, but on the towel I was currently using to dry him off. I was already on the edge, this sent me over. In my mental monologue, patience was being represented by a herd of buffalo hurdle jumpling themselves off a cliff. I was pissed angry speechless and could feel my face changing color. I don’t get that angry often. Porter saw it too, maybe anticipated it, and was in tears. As he calmed down I told him how disappointed I was and let him think about that for a minute or two before we had the following exchange:

“What’s the most important thing to remember before you go to bed?”
(sniffle sniffle, nose wipe, sniffle sniffle)
“Porter. What’s the most important thing to remember before you go to bed?”
“To go potty!” (he screams, then cries, it’s clear he feels bad, which I think he should)
“No, that’s the second most important thing. What do you think the first is?”
“What iv it?” (a sniffle, he started to cry)
“That Mommy and Daddy love you [as much as the] whole world. You’re the best baby man in the world, right?”
“Yef.” (sniffle sniffle)
“Good, because you are. Mommy and Daddy are proud of you, this is just something we have to work on together ok?”
“Otay. Will you carry me [to bed]?”
“Sure can buddy.”

We called the doctor the next day to rule out any possible medical reasons (like a urinary tract infection) but with a complete lack of symptoms he chalked it up to behavioural factors. With Jessie being 7 months old now she’s more interactive, more communicative, more in need of attention and he’s starting to feel some jealousy. We very, very, very conciously include Porter in just about everything and make sure we do things just with him (little dates) but that doesn’t completely settle him now that Jessie is starting to dig on the world around her. Makes sense, not completely unexpected. Porter’s outward behaviour contradicts that though. He’s very affectionate with Jessie, happily performs for her, and is anxious to show her off when we’re out, introducing her to people as ‘my baby’ or ‘my baby sister’ interchangeably. He invites Jessie to read his bedtime story, something that we see as being Porter Time. However, when one of us is nursing/feeding Jessie he undoubtedly feels ‘that little push’ and wants us to watch or help. We’re trying different things but as Trish no doubt accurately observed, we’ll figure out how to handle both the potty training and jealousy just as he gets over it.

The next day he went back to the previous pattern of occasional leaks. The stickers are a great day to day motivator for him.

Some good came of it for me personally though. I’m normally pretty patient, but this set the new barometer. That in itself is a complete system reset of sorts. So I’m more patient than I was before now knowing where my new limit is.

The next post (before Thursday when I head to Austin) will be a couple of Jessie specific headings.

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March 8, 2007

Overdue Family Update

Filed under: My People — Nick @ 11:26 pm

Well, it’s been a long dang time since the last posted update about our happy family and wanted to rectify that before the update involves weddings, births, and college graduations.
I suppose we can start with how much fun Porter had this Christmas.

Little Man was in absolute heaven. This is the first year that he’s been able to anticipate Christmas, understand the difference between being a good boy and a bad boy, and how that potentially relates to Santa’s generosity. Being the good boy he is, lots of toys were delivered, all of which he’s integrated into the same Star Wars/Diego (from Dora The Explorer) driven play universe. One of Porter’s favourite parts of Christmas was getting lots of time with Uncle Jake and Tia Ali who were happily in town. He talks about them a lot and will pick up the New York piece of his U.S.A puzzle and tell us that they who live there. Ali really took the boy under her wing and wore him out. They had even more fun when my Uncle George came in with his wife, Aunt Ilu, and their daughter, Iona (pronounced Yona), from Bali. Iona doesn’t speak much English, but when Porter would point at something (even if it was blank spaces) and shout, “Oh no dairs a monsthter! AHHHHH!” she didn’t understand the bit about the monsthter, but she’s a bright kid that hears the, “AAAHHHH,” and knows what to do. Much revelry ensued.

Here’s a shot of Porter and Jessie with their cousins Jack, Will, & Olivia (all super kids), and Jessie & Will examining something we adults refer to as ‘feet‘.

He got into Christmas music quite a bit. Favourites being Big Bad Voodoo Daddy (Heatmiser), Save Ferris (Christmas Wrapping), Barenaked Ladies (Green Christmas), and The Grinch. We sang them at bed time up until recently. He has a really cool interest in music and has developed a good sense of rhythm. Sometime ago we did an interview where he said the ABC’s but while doing it played piano (FIND FILE AND LINK!!!!!). By playing it I mean that he moved up on piano key for each letter while modifying his voice accordingly. I don’t think that’s really rhythm but it’s mind boggling.

Thanksgiving Day (it has been a while since I did this hasn’t it?) he woke up on his Star Wars pillow case (‘his’ by way of via Uncle Chip via Grandma Hotze – Chip, you can have it back in 2022), and asked, insisted really, on watching Star Wars. So we put in Episode IV (traditional running order of the films unchanged) and watched it. He was riveted. Asked a question everytime the scene changed. We let him watch it again a couple of days later and he had the characters nailed down and would get excited when they came on screen. Later that day Barnaby (Min), in town for the holiday, was at the house and we flipped to the last half hour or so of Empire Strikes Back. We were about to move to something different because it was close to bedtime but he caught wind of it and we gave in. For the next couple of weeks, instead of reading Dr. Seuss at bedtime he’d look at his pillowcase and ask question about the moral complexities presented at the end of Empire.

Since then, he’s getting a bit smarter every day, learning words and has an amazing sense of context.

The only thing I think he’s not up to par with is physical type things. Too many of my athletically crippled genes perhaps, but he’s still not able to jump more than an inch or two off the ground and won’t take a leap of any height without holding on. We’re not too worried though. I think his sense of balance is so good because he’s always trying to not fall.

We don’t make a habit of comparing Porter and Jessie, but a few things are for sure common between the two.

First is that they are both really laid back. For Jessie that commonly means that she doesn’t cry a lot. For Stinkerpotamus, he just goes with the flow. Something about that though. Porter may be too laid back. For example, when he does something worthy of a trip to the corner it doesn’t always phase him. So, we’ll up the ante a bit. Taking away his favourite toy of the moment should jar him a bit shouldn’t it? Not always, not even half the time. He’ll say, “Ok,” and bring the toy over to us! He’s not being a smart hiney (yet), he just wants to be helpful. We’ve found ourselves at clean up time setting a timer and telling him every toy still out at the beep get’s put in our room for 3 days. Seems drastic, but one or two days didn’t catch his attention. No shuffling action from the pile of toys the toy basket. One night I told him we wouldn’t pay for college if he didn’t put his Diego Rescue Center, the center piece of his play, away in the proper place. It didn’t work, and that was frustrating.

Second is curiosity. Both kids were/are very alert to what’s around and you can see the little Cosmo Cogs clicking away while everything is being absorbed. If Jessie is in a new place she likes to sit up (she just sits up a little bit) and look around, stare at people, and grab whatever is in her reach. She kicks her feet when she gets excited. In the past couple of weeks she has become a lot more curious about what’s in front of her and what gets her interested. It’s not unusual for her to ignore Trish or I to look at something banal to the rest of us, but are new and fabulous to her pretty blue eyes. She just likes to be part of the action and quietly watches whatever is in her line of sight. If she doesn’t like her line of sight, a tiny cry alerts us that she’s bored.

Last is socialness. When Porter was younger we joked that he was very kidnappable because he usually gave strangers a smile. These days he stretches out his hand and says, “Hi, my name is Porter. Nice to meet you.” The “what do you do when a stranger talks to you” talks have started. Jessie gives a similar tiny smile, like a pleasantry she wants to dispense with so she can get on with the business of checking you out.

Lately she’s starting to make cooing sounds and other fun noises. Not a lot of laughing but when she does it’s because of her big brother. All he has to do is jump up and down, make a series of loud noises, and she emits the sweetest belly laughs. It makes Trish and I so happy to see little moments of adoration like that. Porter performing for his sister, his sister taking it all in and responding with the simplest, most pure expression of happiness. Just when we didn’t think our own smiles could get any wider. It’s beautiful that they love each other so much. As they get older the surface of that will likely change over time but the foundation is solid. She’s starting to laugh for Trish and I a little more but usually the closest we get is to watch the biggest, most appreciative smile right on the verge of a tremendous belly laugh be delivered instead as a rudimentary raspberry that goes right back to a big dimple smile.

Oh yeah, she has a dimple.

Just since I started writing this a week or so ago, we were reminded about how time can kind of pass without any real big changes and then a bunch will crop up at once. Porter would go a month doing the same old cute stuff and then ga-zump! – next day he’s crawling. Our sweet honey love is far from that step, but it took her about 4 days to go from thinking “Hmmm, these small round toastie O’s are hard to pick up. Oh, thanks Mommy, That’s awfully tasty,” to singing “One little, two little, three little Cheerios,” in baby talk. They disappear so quickly that we’re certain she’s juggling a dozen of them at once, launching them into her mouth in one svelte arc. What’s more, is that we can see her one bottom tooth really working on that Cheerio while her cheeks and tongue work to keep it in her mouth. A funny expression accompanies. She’s eats other solid food of course (yams, peas, bananas) and is still breast feeding. Trish put a neat little excercise type ball in front of her to see if she would sit up and what do you know, it worked! Since then she’s been sitting up just fine and she loves the view.

I almost forgot this fun bit. If we’re all hanging out and playing, and she hears Porter getting tickled too much, she’ll start to cry. When the tickling stops and her big brother pops back up the cry becomes a smile. Looks like we don’t need to teach her whose back she has to get.

Moving on and wrapping up, Porter is doing great with the alphabet, knows his address and phone number, and can spell his first and last name. If he ever gets lost in a store we’ll be found easily. He also does a Row3 Your Boat spectacularly.

This is a bit scattered, but again, I wanted to deliver fun news before the update becomes about what band Porter is playing with (currently he wants to be Big Bad Voodoo Daddy’s drummer) and Jessie’s far enough along to have an opinion about what she wants to be when she grows up. That tomorrow will be here before we know it anyway.

Stay tuned for another post this weekend, and one early next week.

My wonderful babies.

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March 2, 2007

Filtering Through Much Songs

Filed under: Music Stuff — Nick @ 3:51 pm

South By Southwest is a music festival held annually in Austin, TX.  Four of us are going down this year (we must all be in the good graces of our wonderful spouses) and this year the organizers posted a bit torrent of 739 songs made available by bands playing.  Not all bands contributed a song, but those are the folks that either don’t have to (like Tom Morello) or who don’t want anyone to show up at their gig. 

This ‘How To’ is undefinitive, given zero forethought, and is completely arbitrary and random, written as I thought of it.  Having said that, I’m halfway done listening to all 739 songs and sorting what deserves a second listen or a quick trip to the recycle bin.

So far I’m really fascinated by what I’m skipping past and what’s making it to round 2.  I don’t have any band names handy, but it reminds me of when I heard Alice Cooper talk about how much he likes Prince. 

Guidelines

1. Load as many as songs to my mp3 player as I can/want.
2. Don’t listen on shuffle.
3. A good song distracts me from what I’m doing.  I write down the name of that song. 
5. The bad songs will brashly distract you too.  Go past them.
6. Give the gimmicky songs a full shot.  That one man band spent a lot of time practicing, I’ll give him 3 full minutes.
7. If a song starts out interesting, but you lose track halfway through, go past it.  If what was a really interesting first half, mark it down and listen again later.
8. If the song is Hip Hop and mentions the phrases:  Do dis thang, Nawm Sain (translation, ‘Do you know what I’m saying’), or makes reference to the artist or song title in what for dang sure is an already redundant introduction to the song, skip it because there is a 99% chance it is sh*t.  Bear in mind I love hip-hop, but some of this stuff makes indie backpacker hip hop (as it’s sometimes called) sound like the terrible cliche’s it’s supposed to be independent from. 
9. If the chorus, typically the part of the song I sing when the song is over, sucks donkey move on. 
10. Repeat these steps until you have a kick butt playlist.  The second time you go through the songs the ones you thought were the bomb may be boring now that they’re not after 5 or 6 suck songs in a row.  It also makes up for stretches were you may have been to harsh or to lenient.

Subroutines

  • If the name of any supernatural entity is mentioned in the first verse go to the next track. Spare yourself the existential crap inherent with the invocation of God, Satan, or contemplations about their respective genders.
  • I find that songs that open with the chorus are generally clever and I give them a closer listen and decide from there.
  • If there aren’t any changes in the first 90 seconds, run. 
  • If there aren’t any lyrics in the first 90 seconds, and it’s not an instrumentally oriented style like jazz, run.
  • An obvious d.i.y. production means either a great song or the audio equivalent of toilet paper.
  • If a female vocalist sounds sexy listen to the song seventeen or eighteen times regardless of how good it is or isn’t.
  • If thine ear is offended in the first 10 seconds, pluck that song and cast it from thee (e.g., if you know that you don’t like traditional deep southern country music spare yourself the 3 minutes of banjo strings scraping across the chalk board).
  • You can afford to be extremely prejudicial.  There is no way I can to memorize, or discover, every great song and delete every dull song by the time of the festival.  So giving a song a 3rd oppurtunity to rock seems like a waste of time.  Kind of like being at the festival in that if the band your watching isn’t the best thing you’ve seen all night by the 2nd song, go next door because if the band isn’t better, they’re different.  Additionally, irregardlessly, they aren’t as good as whoever is playing somewhere else. 

I guess what I’m really saying is that there is no method.  It all boils down to listening to tunes. 

Carpe Groove!

 

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